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How To Deal With Rejection
By Ronda Phillips I Dare to Outdo Yourself!
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KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION
Rejection is probably one of the most unpleasant experiences for anyone to endure. However, rejection is something that almost everyone will eventually experience or has experienced at some point in life.
Here's a snippet of a rejection list...
Athletes get cut from teams
Job promotions get passed over
Sales pitches get frowned upon
Deals get taken off the tables
Resumes get trashed
Loans get denied
Credit cards get declined
Applications get rejected
Facebook friends get unfriended
Social media posts get no "likes"
Online influencers get trolled
Award winners get snubbed
Anticipated guests don't get invited
Invited guests become no-shows
Relationship partners get dumped
Marriage proposals get turned down
Product reviews get thumbs down
Conversations get ignored
Callers get hung up on
Messages don't get returned
Doors get slammed in faces
Stage performers get booed
And the rejection list could go on and on...
What does it actually mean to be rejected?
Rejection is defined as, not given approval or acceptance; the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc.
Interestingly, rejection can be a hard pill to swallow after experiencing it for the first time, especially if you are one who has been accustomed to rejecting others or is used to getting your way. You may not realize you are being rejected, and could possibly be in denial that such a thing could even happen to you.
For example, if an attractive and successful person has always initiated breaking up with others in past relationships, he/she may find it difficult to deal with rejection in a current relationship if their partner were to choose to end the relationship first.
Experiencing rejection has it's share of side effects -- emotional betrayal, bruise to the ego, hurt feelings, sick to the stomach -- just to name a few.
Rejection is like a painful hit or blow to the mind. Rejection hurts. Rejection requires healing.
Inability to handle rejection can cause you to believe that your life is doomed, which can hinder your ability to see that all is not lost.
Here are 3 helpful tips on how you can deal with rejection:
1. REJECTION INDICATES THAT AN OFFER, OPPORTUNITY OR CIRCUMSTANCE HAS NO "PAY OFF"
Rejection usually takes place when others find little or no value in what you are offering to bring to the table. When others cannot see what's in it for them, when something seems unappealing, unattractive or uninteresting, rejection may be their response. Likewise, when others cannot see the benefit in what you have presented or that they may stand to lose more than gain, rejection may be their response.
For example, you may be in a job interview or in a meeting pitching a business idea. Your words may sound good, however, your approach may be too aggressive or the numbers may not add up on paper to substantiate a sizable return on investment from a potential client's perspective. As a result, your job offer or business deal may become rejected. However, a window of approval can open to your advantage when you are better prepared.
Before presenting any idea or pitch personally or professionally, consider what you have to offer and how it will be viewed from all angles concerning everyone involved. Do your homework. Be clear and concise. Take into consideration if what you have to offer is indeed in the best interest of all involved. Ultimately, before others can trust what you have to offer, it's important that you show others they can trust you first. This is also a two-way street, as you must determine if your dealings with the other party involved with be worth it for you. Don't sell yourself short.
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2. REJECTION OFFERS AN OPPORTUNITY TO GET FEEDBACK FOR FUTURE IMPROVEMENT
Initially after a rejection and hearing the dreaded word "no" you can become easily offended. Don't take it personally at first. Calmly express your concern and desire to find out why there is a rejection against what you have proposed.
For example, if a potential client or customer rejects your sale on a product or service, ask good questions to find out why. The quality and value of what you are offering may be great, however, the timing of the sale may not be appropriate. Money could be a factor. Or, the offer may sound confusing, by including too many bonuses or "bells and whistles" that the client or customer may not want or need. Unexpected personal issues or crises may arise.
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Find out what others really need and take into account what you can actually deliver. Offer a solution that you believe will add the greatest win-win for all involved. Be willing to fairly negotiate if possible, by customizing your offer, adjusting a timeline schedule or creating an installment plan accordingly.
If however, someone's rejection toward you is personal due to discovering something about your past, reputation or current behavior, be prepared to explain yourself honestly if given the chance to do so. Find out what you must do to have another opportunity to redeem yourself. Examine yourself inwardly as well, and determine what you can or must do to take necessary inspired action to prevent the possibility of rejection for the same reasons going forward.
3. REJECTION MEANS A BETTER OPPORTUNITY AWAITS
Incompatibility can play a big part in rejection, which includes differing views, opinions and lifestyle choices. While some may reject you believing they are better than you, others may reject you because they can be intimidated by you. Maybe you and someone else were once in sync and now are no longer a good fit.
For example, suppose you are in a long-term relationship with someone who has an evolving career. Your partner may be putting in longer work hours, working longer hours at home preparing for work at the office, traveling more and so forth. You may have a desire to solidify your relationship and take it to the next level, only to be rejected, as your partner tells you he/she has outgrown you, wants different things in life and the relationship is no longer working out.
When so much time, money and effort has been invested into another person -- including the relationship itself that has been built with another person -- it can be difficult to deal with rejection. When a relationship ends, this is not your loss, rather, it is your gain. People can change for good or bad, causing needs and wants to differ at varying times.
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Rejection is not necessarily a bad thing, although it is often viewed in a negative context. Experiencing rejection merely indicates having a temporary setback. Whenever rejection takes place, it provides you with an opportunity for growth and improvement -- in order for you to receive something or someone better suited for you later on. You may not necessarily receive exactly what you were hoping for, or in the way in which you were hoping. Rather, you may receive that which is totally unexpected, more appropriate and right on time.
Rejection indicates that as one door closes, another one awaits to be open. In-between one door closing and another door opening, work on yourself inwardly in order to better yourself outwardly. Get creative and fine tune your process or approach -- or whatever else you may discover that has not worked favorably on your behalf -- regarding your prior dealings with others personally and professionally, so you can have a more favorable outcome in the future.
No one likes being told "no" or feeling devalued. The process to go from rejection to acceptance can be unpleasant, daunting and tiring. However, when you believe in yourself and that what you have to offer has tremendous value, others will take notice, you will eventually be told "yes" and the wait will be so well worth it. Continue to better yourself, which is an ongoing, life long process.
Be reminded of these 3 helpful tips on how you can deal with rejection:
1. Rejection indicates that an offer, opportunity or circumstance currently has no
2. Rejection offers an opportunity to get feedback for future improvement
3. Rejection means a better opportunity awaits
Experiencing rejection does not mean that it's the end of the world for you. Do not give up. Do not throw in the towel. Continue to hold your head up high and persevere. The favorable connections and opportunities will come along at the appointed time to accept you and what you offer, so you can have the abundant lifestyle you desire.
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Known for her creative style, positive influence and straightforward professionalism, Ronda Phillips is a certified life coach,author, speaker, television host, style expert and entrepreneur. Her core mission is to empower and challenge individuals to become propelled to take charge of their life through preparation, performance and persistence. Ronda is the founder of Dare to Outdo Yourself!
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